How Your Parenting Style Can Affect Your Child – India New England | Wonder Mind Kids

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BY NEHA JAIN

NEW DELHI – Parenting has taken an incredible turn in the past decade, and it can undoubtedly be a rollercoaster ride. The way parents raised their children 10-15 years ago is drastically different from the way parents raise their children today. Unfortunately, modern parents stagger under the pressure to be perfect. But here’s the thing: there are no ideal parents. For those new to parenting, the pressure can be overwhelming and confusing. While the methods used by their parents will most likely be viewed as outdated, new systems can seem confusing and challenging.

As a result, there are many debates about parenting styles. Parenting styles refer to the techniques and methods parents use to care for and discipline their children. These approaches are critical as they can have a lasting impact on the child’s psyche and the type of relationships they form later in life.

The parent-child relationship: Laying the foundation

The relationship with parents is the foundation upon which all other relationships are built. Almost all major schools of thought in psychology stress the importance of this early attachment and its contribution to shaping the child’s ‘self’. For example, the object relations school posits that we internalize our parental attachments and carry them with us as “internal objects” for the rest of our lives. Thus, a strict and strict parent can be internalized as a unified voice telling the child or adult that he/she is not good enough and can create anxiety and depression. This adult may live forever in fear of being abandoned by their partner, or leave the relationship before this imagined abandonment occurs.

Given the importance of these bonds, this article discusses the different parenting styles and their impact on children in the Indian context.

Authoritarian parenting style

What is meant by this is an upbringing style that is characterized by a high degree of adherence to the rules and even unquestioned compliance. Such parents have high expectations of compliance and little room for deviation from the instructions. They provide a rigid structure with no explanations or considerations of the child’s preferences. Children growing up in such families are dependent, critical of their decisions, anxious, and prone to aggressive behavior.

Authoritative parenting style

While this sounds similar to the authoritarian parenting style, it is not. Parents who exhibit an authoritative parenting style try to strike a balance between order and nurturing. They have rules, but those rules are flexible. The child’s voice is taken into account and the meaning and rationale for these rules are explained. Affection is not frowned upon and children are valued for who they are. This includes setting realistic standards, communicating effectively with the child, and empathizing with them. Children from these families are more self-confident and responsible than children from families with other parenting styles.

Permissive parenting style

Such parents have much warmth and little order. They tend to be indulgent and don’t give their children the structure they need. There are no set rules, and parents act more like friends. While such a parenting style may seem beneficial, this judgment may be superficial. Children need guidance and rules to instill a sense of stability. Children growing up in such an environment tend to have adjustment problems and low self-esteem. They may also be anxious about the “psychic creation of a punishing parent.”

Uninvolved parenting style

These parents have little order and warmth. They usually neither set rules nor show interest in their children’s lives. In most cases, these are people who suffer from a mental disorder or an addiction. In these households, communication is often lacking and children are forced to take on the parental role of caring for their parents. Those raised by such parents are prone to depression and anxiety. You tend to be overly anxious or needy in relationships. Aggressive outbreaks are also common in this cohort.

Ideal parenting style

The task of choosing an ideal parenting style is challenging. Experts point out that different situations justify using different parenting styles. However, uninvolved parenting can be seen as the worst thing and can lead to serious mental health problems in children. A healthy combination of the other three parenting styles can be ideal for raising a responsible, well-rounded adult.

In summary, parenting styles play an important role in determining a person’s mental health. However, this relationship is not the only factor. Many people who grew up in abusive families turned out to be responsible and emotionally adjusted adults. As a parent, it’s also important to remember that there are no certified standards for perfect parenting. A committed parent who strives to meet the child’s emotional, physical, cognitive, and behavioral needs while providing a stable and safe environment can be viewed as a good parent. (IANS)

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